Gray hairs are heirs to lives we no longer lead. No color can cover their intent. No plucking presumes their sense. Gray hairs are tough and wild and erupt faster and meaner than the ordinary. The sprouting of gray is the final bray below the dying sun. The respect and dread they covet from above are grasping internments of the earth.

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  1. So beautifully put! I have always thought gray hairs made the person look so distiguished (or something like that) but then again I’ve probably got at least 10 years (or more) before I have any.

  2. Dear Dave —
    Here are the answers to your questions as I guess them…
    1. You are right about having less gray but more skin… so the top of your head must look younger than the side of your head. Heh! 🙂
    2. The sudden sprouting — DON’T FORGE THE NEW EAR HAIR! — is the inner youth in you fighting back against the incoming gray. Your body struggles to perform as it did when aging was but a long term inevitability like death. The problem is your body is unwilling to produce the tufts of the young so everything grows haywire in strange and unsightly strands.
    3. I wonder if the women are unable to see their new hair. I know some women who have hair growing out of their moles are told by their doctors to leave the hair in place because it is a sign the mole hasn’t “turned yet” or something like that. Now hairs coming out of warts — that is strictly magic and that is a witches and warlocks domain!
    4. Your blonde hair that turns light brown — hmmm — sounds like magic to me!

  3. Dear Dave —
    Here are the answers to your questions as I guess them…
    1. You are right about having less gray but more skin… so the top of your head must look younger than the side of your head. Heh! 🙂
    2. The sudden sprouting — DON’T FORGE THE NEW EAR HAIR! — is the inner youth in you fighting back against the incoming gray. Your body struggles to perform as it did when aging was but a long term inevitability like death. The problem is your body is unwilling to produce the tufts of the young so everything grows haywire in strange and unsightly strands.
    3. I wonder if the women are unable to see their new hair. I know some women who have hair growing out of their moles are told by their doctors to leave the hair in place because it is a sign the mole hasn’t “turned yet” or something like that. Now hairs coming out of warts — that is strictly magic and that is a witches and warlocks domain!
    4. Your blonde hair that turns light brown — hmmm — sounds like magic to me!

  4. I am 27 and have been going grey for about 4 years. I color my hair; but not so much to cover the grey, which I actually like and think is pretty. My biological hair is a very boring brown. I color my hair to spice it up. Usually some shade of red or brown. Sometimes I do pretty golden highlights too. Once my hair is 50% grey – maybe even 25% – I will stop coloring. The grey hairs are actually pretty silvery looking; there just aren’t enough of them yet to make me give up my red 🙂

  5. I am 27 and have been going grey for about 4 years. I color my hair; but not so much to cover the grey, which I actually like and think is pretty. My biological hair is a very boring brown. I color my hair to spice it up. Usually some shade of red or brown. Sometimes I do pretty golden highlights too. Once my hair is 50% grey – maybe even 25% – I will stop coloring. The grey hairs are actually pretty silvery looking; there just aren’t enough of them yet to make me give up my red 🙂

  6. My hair started turning gray in my early 40’s, now at 58 its about solid gray, never have tried to cover them, its rightly never bothered me.
    Run into my best friend growing up, who spent much time at my house and I at his during out youth, along with his dad one day in the local Big T. First time I had seen him in 30 years. A few comments had been said, them he made a comment about my hair turnings gray.
    At that time his dad spoke up, and said, “Jerry, any man with the last name of _ _ _ _ _ _ _ , that are over 30, they have gray hair.”
    My eyes went to look at his hair at that very moment, I did not see one single gray hair on his head, his dad’s was sloid gray.
    But, after his dad said that, he turned and walked away not saying one more word to me.
    His day said. “I guess it bothers him Jerry.”
    I replyed, “I suppose some people do not want everyone to know they have gray hair and are getting older.”
    The next time I saw my friend was about 20 years later at his fathers funeral service, he still did not have no gray hair, plus he had a new bride, his 3rd with each new one being younger than the previous, this one was a bit younger than my daughter.
    I suppose he trying to keep his youth. I rightly don’t think this will work.

  7. My hair started turning gray in my early 40’s, now at 58 its about solid gray, never have tried to cover them, its rightly never bothered me.
    Run into my best friend growing up, who spent much time at my house and I at his during out youth, along with his dad one day in the local Big T. First time I had seen him in 30 years. A few comments had been said, them he made a comment about my hair turnings gray.
    At that time his dad spoke up, and said, “Jerry, any man with the last name of _ _ _ _ _ _ _ , that are over 30, they have gray hair.”
    My eyes went to look at his hair at that very moment, I did not see one single gray hair on his head, his dad’s was sloid gray.
    But, after his dad said that, he turned and walked away not saying one more word to me.
    His day said. “I guess it bothers him Jerry.”
    I replyed, “I suppose some people do not want everyone to know they have gray hair and are getting older.”
    The next time I saw my friend was about 20 years later at his fathers funeral service, he still did not have no gray hair, plus he had a new bride, his 3rd with each new one being younger than the previous, this one was a bit younger than my daughter.
    I suppose he trying to keep his youth. I rightly don’t think this will work.

  8. Hi Luka! — It’s a pleasure to meet you and I thank you for dropping in such a great comment! I appreciate your honesty and it’s so funny to look at your Gravatar while reading your comment. I can’t stop myself from trying to find gray strands in your Gravatar! It’s interesting how gray hair can be silver or white or blonde or some other angry color…
    🙂
    Jerry! — It’s interesting for men who choose to color their hair. It seems like a lot of work because any mistake or overlooked strand and you are publicly and obviously not genuine. If you are intimate with someone and you have gray hairs poking all about your covered areas then you had better either shave everything every day or start buying the dye in tubs and buckets! Sometimes it’s better just to give in to nature than to fight it as you so rightly suggest.

  9. Hi Luka! — It’s a pleasure to meet you and I thank you for dropping in such a great comment! I appreciate your honesty and it’s so funny to look at your Gravatar while reading your comment. I can’t stop myself from trying to find gray strands in your Gravatar! It’s interesting how gray hair can be silver or white or blonde or some other angry color…
    🙂
    Jerry! — It’s interesting for men who choose to color their hair. It seems like a lot of work because any mistake or overlooked strand and you are publicly and obviously not genuine. If you are intimate with someone and you have gray hairs poking all about your covered areas then you had better either shave everything every day or start buying the dye in tubs and buckets! Sometimes it’s better just to give in to nature than to fight it as you so rightly suggest.

  10. Heya Chris —
    It is so interesting to see how you blonde guys don’t go grey but just a darker shade. Wild stuff, that! It’s interesting that women, as they age, are advised to always lighten their dark hair because it makes them look softer — but not too light — gray or white are too far in the opposite direction.
    Youth certainly has its advantages and age in years has always been suspect to me. The young aren’t old enough and the old are told they’re too old. There’s no winning when it comes to judging people base on time alive instead of heartfelt effort spent.
    Comedian Steve Martin also went gray at a young age and when he started taking multi-vitamins his hair started turning brown. His agent yelled at him and told him to stop taking the vitamins because he was “killing his act!”

  11. Heya Chris —
    It is so interesting to see how you blonde guys don’t go grey but just a darker shade. Wild stuff, that! It’s interesting that women, as they age, are advised to always lighten their dark hair because it makes them look softer — but not too light — gray or white are too far in the opposite direction.
    Youth certainly has its advantages and age in years has always been suspect to me. The young aren’t old enough and the old are told they’re too old. There’s no winning when it comes to judging people base on time alive instead of heartfelt effort spent.
    Comedian Steve Martin also went gray at a young age and when he started taking multi-vitamins his hair started turning brown. His agent yelled at him and told him to stop taking the vitamins because he was “killing his act!”

  12. i am 36 & i can’t stand the site of any of my gray hair.
    i have a habit of plucking them before anyone can see them.
    Is this a problem? What will happen if i keep plucking. Now it seems that they are getting to numerous to deal with.
    My grandma was completely gray & very thin by 40.
    Can i really be that vain????!!!!!!???? i don’t want to be.

  13. i am 36 & i can’t stand the site of any of my gray hair.
    i have a habit of plucking them before anyone can see them.
    Is this a problem? What will happen if i keep plucking. Now it seems that they are getting to numerous to deal with.
    My grandma was completely gray & very thin by 40.
    Can i really be that vain????!!!!!!???? i don’t want to be.

  14. cissy!
    DO NOT PLUCK!
    You’ll start and never stop and then you won’t have any hair and you will be sad.
    Go to a nice salon and have your hair tinted (that’s what they call a dye job in New York) and you’ll feel so much younger and better!
    😀

  15. cissy!
    DO NOT PLUCK!
    You’ll start and never stop and then you won’t have any hair and you will be sad.
    Go to a nice salon and have your hair tinted (that’s what they call a dye job in New York) and you’ll feel so much younger and better!
    😀