When I was in graduate school 15 years ago, I had a Gay instructor who mentioned one day all the Gay people he knew were incredibly smart, rich, creative, emotional and thoughtful. He was not making a political statement.
He was merely wondering aloud. He went on to ask us if we knew any Gay people who were stupid, poor, dull, emotionless or uninterested. No one in class could think of any stupid Gay people.
There were several openly Gay people in the class who sat there and smiled and dared us to point at them. Some in class said they didn’t have much exposure to Gay life or Gay culture. Our instructor nodded and moved on to another topic. 15 years later I still find his wondering interesting on several levels:
1. His thesis appeared to support the idea that Gay people were bred and not born.
2. Today his “Gay people are smart and not stupid” argument is fascinating because, as I understand it, one of the main arguments from the Gay community for equal access, opportunity and protection under the law is that Gay people are genetically coded to be Gay. The Gay community believes, as I understand it, that being Gay is a fact of life on the cellular level and not a lifestyle choice.
3. His argument curiously suggests there may be a large pool of undiscovered Gay people in the world who don’t realize they are, in fact, Gay because they are too stupid to realize the difference.
I grew up in the theatre and while I am not Gay I do have a lot of Gay friends. All of them are bright and shiny — but rarely rich — and it makes me wonder about the validity of my instructor’s query all those years ago. I’m sure there must be “stupid” Gay people in the world.
I just haven’t met any. Maybe I’m hanging out in the wrong neighborhoods or unwittingly believing in stereotypes. If you have an interesting comment on this topic, please feel free to share your intellectual and logical thoughts.
I will not allow any Gay-bashing comments here or any other method used to disparage Gay people. I am seeking thoughtful, personal, experiences and insight and not outside quotes or rigorous dogma intended to crush or hurt.