I learned a couple of new terms the other day and they were new to me because I am self-employed and I work alone all day and I answer to only myself because I often talk to myself. I am a tough boss and a hard worker. I would give myself a raise and a bonus if I weren’t such a taskmaster. The new terms I learned were “Office Husband” and “Work Wife” and I want to know if you have one or not!
As I understand it, you can have an Office Husband and a Work Wife even if you are married in your private life, or if you are dating someone or even if you are single. There is no sexual relationship involved in Office Husbandry or Work Wifery — though there may be sexual tension or a shared, platonic, attraction — but the idea of the Office Husband or the Work Wife is to “become a couple” at work and to privately defend each other when questioned and to publicly stand up for each other when threatened.
I am told this gender dyad is created out of the necessity to coalesce shared interests, and the easiest way to achieve that relationship need for protection is to play the familiar Husband/Wife role. Many people do not realize or admit they have a second Wife or Husband at work — though everyone else around them does because to anger one is to make an enemy of both. You often share lunch with your Work Better Half.
You confide in intimate emails and even give each other gifts and you giggle at inside jokes that sicken the rest of the office. Your real wife or husband don’t know anything about the duplicate relationship you have at the office — and you know they can never know
— because the best quality time spent with your “spouse” is not found at home, but rather in the workplace, where you are forced to like each other enough to get along throughout the day.
Have you found an Office Husband or a Work Wife? Do you see these “Spousal Dyads” at work where you work?