I am convinced every American child needs a Chinese mother. That way, we’ll be ensuring the necessary and obligatory dedication to mind, learning and quantifiable success. I realize my position may not be a popular one, but after reading this ovaric essay — Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior — I am now all in on the Chinese methodology of raising proper children.
Despite our squeamishness about cultural stereotypes, there are tons of studies out there showing marked and quantifiable differences between Chinese and Westerners when it comes to parenting. In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that “stressing academic success is not good for children” or that “parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.” By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be “the best” students, that “academic achievement reflects successful parenting,” and that if children did not excel at school then there was “a problem” and parents “were not doing their job.” Other studies indicate that compared to Western parents, Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams.
Why don’t Western parents demand more from their children?
It seems that Western parents want to be friends with their children and not a mother and a father. Western parenting stresses having fun instead of doing hard work. There appears to be a massive lack of teaching discretion and self-control and mindfulness and a severe and unobtrusive dedication to purpose.
When did American children become more about ego than producing quantifiable results either in labor or from works of the mind? When did we, as Westernized people, become so utterly and educationally slovenly that we adhere more to religious principles instead of the scientific process?
How did we sink so far in the mud and the muck of simply believing instead of creating results and inventing new ideas that will stretch the boundaries that hold us back? Now we just quiver in the night and wish and dream for successes we have not learned or earned.