I was raised to believe “a deal is a deal” and that means once you agree on something with someone — written contract or not — that part of the deal is done and settled and to go back later and try to renegotiate is tantamount to going back on your word.
Where I grew up going back on your word marked you as a liar and made you untrustworthy and you were ostracized from the community with glares and silence. You felt your bad behavior in your bones and it was a long while before your word was trusted again. Does keeping your word still matter today?
More and more it seems people will swear on their lives and on their children in one moment only in the next breath to take back everything they just said without remorse or afterthought and if there are implied ramifications that their lies now have consequences the liar becomes indignant and haughty and, many times, mean.
I have seen this happen on the playground and in the boardroom and it makes one wonder if a legal document is the only thing that has weight of a forced morality today? When did “a deal is a deal” become a bad thing to be trampled and mocked?