A friend of mine claims once a woman reaches the age of 21 she is free game for any free man even if she’s “taken.” His reasoning is if a woman is smart and talented and beautiful she will not be unattached long because a man will hunt her down and lock her up like his property in a relationship or a marriage.
My friend goes on to claim a woman over 21 who is not in some sort of committed relationship has “something wrong with her” that makes her an unattractive choice for dating and marriage or she has bigger plans than spending a lot of time with one man.
This predicament for the lonely single man, my friend claims, demands any woman in a relationship that does not include newborn children, is fair game even if she has a ring on her finger or claims to be in a relationship.
“You can’t find a good woman today who is unattached,” he claims, “because all the good women are taken so you have to realize your next wife or girlfriend is already in a committed relationship.
Even when the ‘good women’ have relationship breakups they don’t last long going unattached. That doesn’t mean,” he continued, “you are out to break up people, but the fact the woman claims to love someone else shouldn’t stop you from thinking of her as a future potential mate.”
I understand what my friend is claiming, but does it make any sense in the real world? Is his philosophy dangerous for ongoing, established relationships? Do women share the same view that “all the good ones are taken” and there is an expectation today that relationships and marriage are only fleeting and of-the-moment?