I have always believed we must live our lives and make decisions based on insufficient evidence we have in hand and then live with the consequences of those uninformed responses. I do not believe in regret. Regret is poison. Regret is emotional and intellectual suicide that decays the body from within. Reflecting on a reflexive life is different than regret. We must reflect in order to know what not to do in the future.
Q: Do you have any regrets?
— asked by anishak
A: Sure I do, but if I were to give back the regretful experience, I’d also have to give back the lesson I learned from it, in which case I’d be primed to make the same mistake over again once I erased it.
The best advice comes from my iPhone when I accidentally shake it: “there is nothing to undo.”
I like the second half of John’s answer more than the first because he hits upon the universal hard truth of living a human life: “There is nothing to undo.”
I don’t like his phumfering around with the start of his answer because he’s trying too hard to have it both ways in a silly, anti-intellectual, roundabout. He’s overstating the obvious to get to his righteous — “There is nothing to undo” — point.
Starting with the second half of his answer as his entire answer would’ve been editorial genius. As it stands, the phumfering first half reply defeats the wisdom of his second part — and now begs the question: “If John Mayer had it to do all over again, would he use the second part as his whole answer and delete the first?”
Using John’s past to influence the present, we would have to answer in the affirmative — and that recantation proves our point that the first part of his answer was a lot of hoodoo about nothing to undo.