A female friend of mine, fresh on the dating scene after a disengaged marriage, lamented the lack of an available good man. She is offended by many of the online dating sites where available men list as a requirement a “clean woman” — which, I was told, is a code phrase that translates into a “woman who washes her private parts on a regular basis.”
The fact that so many men think women need reminding to “wash down there” in order to be dating material is more than off-putting for my friend because it shows just how immature and out-of-touch those men are when it comes to having a relationship with a real woman.
As I pondered the idea of requiring a “Clean Woman” — I was led to think about another turn-of-word I’ve seen advertised on Facebook and MySpace: Men looking for a “Christian Girl.”
Is the phrase “Christian Girl” socially accepted coded language that means a “submissive and catering” female who knows her second place in the home and accepts the man as the head of household and decider of all things monetary and emotional?
Is the term “Christian Girl” a bit of a cudgel using the Bible to enforce morality and reform the values of any wild notion that a woman belongs only to herself — and not solely to her husband or to his oppressive God?