I remember a time when, as a kid, getting candy OUT of your hair was a major, momentary, catastrophe that was only resolvable with a pair of scissors. The resultant bald patch was your mark of dishonor for playing so poorly with such sticky candy. I was, of course, curious to read about the recent Jolly Rancher in Your Hair Affair where a mother purposefully put Jolly Rancher candy in her child’s hair and then sent said child off to school for photo day. Here’s a random image of what “Your Hair in Jolly Ranchers” looks like:
Here’s another random image of a similar candy styling:
The original child in question had her picture taken by her disbelieving teacher and the ensuing outrage on both sides of the wrapper have been stuck in our condescending cultural eye ever since. Here are the images of the child in style:
I am concerned when I read comments from people that the teacher was wrong. I am outraged when people blame the child for asking for the candy ‘do. I find a comment from “Big Ed” on the Chicago Tribune website interesting:
Ok, I’ll be the devil’s advocate here. A parent sends her child to school, on picture day, with a foolish looking hairdo, that the parent created. A teacher takes 2 pictures, showing the faceless students ridiculous hairdo, and posts it on Facebook, and we vilify the teacher? Granted if I were the teacher, I would have used a little more discrepancy on who I allowed to see these pictures, but for the parent to cry about the teacher not “apologizing to the student,” is utterly ridiculous. Lucinda Williams if you don’t like your daughter, to be made fun of, or laughed at, don’t send your daughter to school, looking foolish, comparably to Lady Gaga wearing a dress made totally of fresh meat! You gave her a hairdo, that you probably thought was funny, and then, you claim to be offended when someone laughs at it! Quit blaming teachers, for the stupidity of the parents, and the lack of parents taking responsibility for their actions. This is exactly what is wrong with our schools today, parents are not accountable for their children’s actions, and in most incidents, are participants in the behavior, that they later claim hurt the child’s feelings, and then you claim that, it’s all the teachers fault, for laughing and sharing that laughter with their friends!
I think Big Ed rightly puts the blame where it belongs: On the mother of the child. If not for her direct intervention, none of this ever would have happened. She must learn to say “No” to her child. That mother needs to understand the world can be a cruel and mocking place and her first job as a parent is to protect her daughter from any unnecessary pain — including intentional whimsy — which was unfairly, and unnecessarily, perpetrated by her child’s peers and teacher.
We learn by watching — and the world is gathering a valuable lesson about candy and hairstyles, and what it means to be the center of negative attention — and, unfortunately, the Jolly Rancher Girl gets the worst of it in the end as the landing for finger pointing and laughter, and it was all so utterly avoidable.